Hook-Up Culture

In last week’s post, I discussed sex-differences in the estimation of sexual intention and misprediction bias between men and women. To briefly recap:

In line with previous research, the authors found women’s ratings of their own sexual intentions were 23% lower than men’s average estimates of female intent based on the same behaviours and comments.

Women report significantly higher own sexual intentions when they are asked about other targets’ intentions before their own, suggesting that 48-69% of the overestimation bias is attributable to women underreporting their own sexual intentions.

There seems to remain a substantial gap in how women and men interpret dating situations, which could lead to problematic misunderstandings between dating partners’ intentions in actually wanting to have sex.”

The article was a discussion of a study I found and I wanted to explore how much miscommunication there was between men and women in sexual/romantic settings in an attempt to shed some light on how sexual/romantic faux pas (if one could call them that) occur. Finding that men overestimate women’s interest and women underestimate their own came as no surprise to me. Finding that much of 48-69% of the overestimation bias is attributable to women underreporting their own sexual intentions even caught me a little off-guard; I did not anticipate it being so high, to be entirely honest.

The differences in sexual intention can be partly attributed to the differences in desired outcomes, especially in regards to ‘hook-ups’. As mentioned in the study above, women expressed lower sexual intention in the behaviours assessed whereas men expressed higher sexual intention (and estimated higher sexual intention in women). Thus, it should come as no surprise that in regards to hook-ups, men’s ideal outcomes are more sex-orientated (they are more likely to view continued sexual involvement as ideal) whereas women’s ideal outcomes are more relationship-orientated (they are more likely to view romantic involvement as ideal).

Today’s study assessed 348 college students who completed a survey on expected, ideal, and actual relational outcomes of hook ups (assessed at a 10-week follow-up). The results show, interestingly enough, that the rejection rate (want nothing more) is near equal for men and women (male = 18.8%, female = 17.5%). However, women were nearly twice as likely to ‘soft-reject’, if one could call it that, in that the ideal outcome was ‘Friendship’ (male = 6.3%, female = 11.3%). In terms of continued outcomes, women were nearly five times more likely to want romantic involvement whereas men were nearly six times more likely to want continued sexual involvement.

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The question asked that gave the results for the table above was: “Ideally, how would you like most of your hook ups to end?” Participants were given seven options from which to choose: (1) nothing more (i.e., no future contact), (2) future hook ups, (3) friendship (platonic), (4) an FWB arrangement, (5) talking/exploring the idea of starting a relationship, (6) a casual dating relationship, and (7) an exclusive committed relationship.

Women’s desire for commitment and men’s desire for coitus stems from the age-old mating strategies of men and women: men*ahem* seek to spread their seed far and wide (so as to maximise numbers of offspring) and women seek a committed man (who will provision resources and guard her and the offspring).

In fact, similar results were found a few months ago in research from the University of Aberdeen: Dr Mirjam Brady-Van den Bos assessed the swiping activities of people who used Tinder and found (would you believe) men were more likely to swipe right (approve of) women who were ‘hot’ and women were more likely to swipe right (approve of) men who displayed intelligence and stability.

These studies show how we are still the same primitive beasts with the same primitive mating desires that we were 200,000+ years ago, only now we’re using modern technology to satisfy these archaic and evolved desires. Overall, men tend to seek sexual activity with attractive women and women tend to seek men who can provide.

Imagine my shock.



    • “These studies show how we are still the same primitive beasts with the same primitive mating desires that we were 200,000+ years ago”

      Just a quibble, Jordan, but no one knows what the mating habits of people were 200,000 years ago or even 20,000 years ago. Our ideas (beliefs, really) of how they were are derived from our current behaviours, adjusted a bit to make those “primitive” people appear more, well, beastly (by current standards of beastliness).


  1. A paper with the title Gender Differences in Receptivity to Sexual Offers found that when male students propositioned females with, “I think you are very attractive (a) would you come out with me tonight, or(b) would you come over to my apartment tonight or (c) would you go to bed with me tonight”, the percentages of yes were 50% for a date, 0% for visiting the apartment and 0% for bed. However, when females asked males the same questions the responses were 50%, 69% and 69%, randy fellows. Clearly there are no difference between men and women at all, except in this vector. Ha, Ha.

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